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I am a 22 you male virgin who has never had a girkfriend. I worry that this is a bad thing and will only lead to rejection when found out. I had a troubled start to life and when most people my age where starting to become sexaul active I was developing depression and anxiety. My mental health has improved greatly and I have a good job but I still feel like my lack of experience will be a instant turn off. I never had affection as a child soo... Read More

I am 23 and I have been married for 1 and 1/2 years. seven years ago when I was in high school I fell for a guy from my church (not my husband). we were a fling for a while but never amounted to a relationship (I kinda ended things with him when he was in the army after he graduated high school - he is 2 years older than me). we never lost contact and would occasionally see each other in groups of our church friends. i never got over him or... Read More

Hey! I'm in high school and there is this boy I've been liking since November! We have been texting for about 4 months now! I know he likes me and he knows I like him! We really click and we can have conversations for hours over the phone! One problem we have......we have only hung out once and it was in a group setting!!! I know he is a VERY shy guy but still..... I ask if he wants to hang out and he always want to but when the time... Read More

Hi Dr LoveI just met a guy and he is lovely but straight away he confided he is turned on by urination, Im not disgusted by this but im also not turned on by it and I get the impression that it is the only thing that can get him off, he more or less admited that. Sex is very important to me and I feel like his fantasy is very limiting if he cant get off on my body alone or other things apart from urination, am I wasting my time seeing him... Read More

I have been on my own for about 18yrs i had two great loves in my life both ended not on a good note. I feel that i am unable to find someone. there is nobody i am intrested in i feel like something is missing in me, i don"t feel lonely or wishing i had someone i am ok on my own but it would be nice to have somebody that loved me or me love them, or am i ment to spend my days partner less. any advice would be great something i can do becasue... Read More

On one of your articles you said that the only thing you should say by text or email to your ex is this  "I've been thinking it over and I'm beginning to realize why you were so unhappy with me and felt that breaking up was the only answer".  Then you go to no contact.  You say this statement plants a seed, what do you mean exactly, what kind of seed and what emotions does this stir up  Thanks

Dear Dr. Love,My father died suddenly when I was a little girl age 7. Since then I sometimes feel he is guiding me but I question it and feel I am making it up. I am age 65 now and would like so much to know it is really him talking to me because I miss him so much. Right now I especially would like to connect with him because I just lost my job and have some health challenges. How do I know it is really him or just my own wishful thinking?... Read More

I am not entirely sure this is the same Dr. Love, but I believe I posted a question for Dr. Love when I was 16 years old about a girl I had a serious crush on when I was in high school and remember receiving a reply, for which I'd like to say thank you. I am currently 27, about to finish my Masters in engineering, and unable to meet women. I am very much inexperienced having only ever had one date with one girl when I was 20, and then I met a... Read More

In 1997 I was drugged then raped by both males and females, publicly and captured on people's mobiles. This was then shared throughout my town. This attracted unwelcome attention from males which included another similar event in 2008.Sadly the people responsible were care workers and "friends"and sinceI had no memories of the events. I have been slandered,lied about and sexually abused.No-one believes me and my partnerdoesn't either and says... Read More

Hi Dr. Love!  I am hoping to gain some insight into something that has been perplexing me for a couple years.  My job requires me to doa  lot of driving during the day, and there are days in which I see more than 20 headlights out, usually on my left.  Often one right after the other, or one coming toward me and one in my rear view mirror!  Some days I see more than 20, and some days it is only a few.  I have tried to understand this message... Read More