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My Mission Statement for

Dr. Turndorf’s Personal Experience

Since the recent death of Emile Jean Pin, my beloved husband of 27 years, I have discovered that relationships do not end in death. His miraculous manifestations, often in front of witnesses, have proven that there is life after life. My experiences with him have led me to develop my groundbreaking Trans-Dimensional grief therapy that diverges from the traditional Western approach (grieve, let go and move on). By contrast, my method guides people to reconnect and, if needed, make peace with the deceased--bringing my acclaimed conflict resolution method to the world of after death communication (ADC). My story and new grief therapy method is presented in my latest bestselling book Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased, published by Hay House.

Connecting souls, whether they are on the earth or spirit plane.

This mission was born out of my having been born 3 months early (I weighed only 2 pounds) and having spent the first 3 months in a preemie nursery. A psychic told me that I decided then that I would devote my life to this work so that other people would not have to suffer the pain of disconnection that I suffered.

The lack of love and connection that I felt in the preemie nursery continued throughout my childhood where I was physically and emotionally beaten by both parents.

Even though my story is extreme, I can say that everyone on the planet has suffered some form of parental lack--whether it be a lack of attunement to our feelings, to outright abuse, rejection or abandonment. This is the human condition. Our parents did the best they could, but it is never enough.

The relationship problems we suffer as adults can always be traced back to the Old Scars we suffered as children. Our early experiences taught us that love isn't safe, love hurts and/or love gets taken away.

We carry our Old Scars into adulthood by choosing partners who repeat the painful experiences of childhood. So, for example, if we had an absent father, we will choose an absent partner. Our adult relationships just add salt to our original wounds, proving to us that it isn't safe to love.

Next, we fall into the dying by our own sword defense. Since we know that love is going to be taken from us, we say and do things to push away those closest to us. If our love is going to "die" we at least want to be in control of the ending. So we engage in a preemptive strike and reject the other person before he/she can take the love away from us.

Without knowing it, we say and do all kinds of things that push away those closest to us. Maybe we pick fights, or maybe we distance ourselves--the options are endless. These operations create relationship distress and fighting. Soon we have chained ourselves to relationships that feel like life sentences without parole...or we become our own emotional jailors, locking ourselves in solitary confinement.

I help people break free of these emotional chains.

First, I help heal the Old Scars so that you are healthy enough to choose a partner who can actually love you back, rather than repeat your childhood lacks.

I also teach you how to transform your intimate relationship into an oasis of healing so that you and your partner can work together to heal your Old Scars together. As the Old Scars fade, your relationships become happier and less fraught with fighting. This is the essence of Kiss Your Fights Good-bye.

Once we resolve our Old Scars, and we bullet proof our relationship so that we don't have to risk losing a partner due to a break up or divorce, we still find ourselves afraid of loving and losing.

Here is where Love Never Dies comes in. As our story proves, we don't lose those we love because love is eternal and only our bodies cease to exist.

Knowing this we can fearlessly leap off the ledge of love like never before knowing that our loved ones in spirit will always catch our hearts and hold us eternally close to them.