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Just Tell Me What to Do. I'M BEGGING

Hey! I'm in high school and there is this boy I've been liking since November! We have been texting for about 4 months now! I know he likes me and he knows I like him! We really click and we can have conversations for hours over the phone! One problem we have......we have only hung out once and it was in a group setting!!! I know he is a VERY shy guy but still..... I ask if he wants to hang out and he always want to but when the time gets close to us hanging out he backs out last minute. For example.... I invited him over and then an hour before he said his dad made dinner and so his family was having "fam" night! I just don't understand!!!!! I like him so much and I just don't know what to do! Do you think he is shy or honestly just doesn't like me?!? I'm getting tired of him backing out last minute! Tell me what I should do and what you think please!!!

Answer: 

If you notice you began your letter saying that you know he likes you, but by the end of your letter you’re wondering if he doesn’t.

The fact that he has conversations that last for hours means that he does like you.

You said you know that he’s shy.

So you know everything you need to know. He likes you and he’s shy.

Now, here’s the thing. Are you sure that he knows that you like him as more than just a friend?

Remember, if he’s shy, he’s likely also insecure and he may not be sure that you like him in a romantic way.

So to move things forward you have to make your signals clear. Have you heard my Dr. Love’s Quickie, Going Green? In this Quickie I explain that guys won’t approach unless they are sure to not be rejected, so it’s up to you to make your signals clear.

Increase what I call your Green Lights, which are non-verbal signals that let him know you are interested. Smile, laugh at his jokes, ask interested questions.

If he still hangs back, then you need to get up the nerve to tell him that you like him and ask him whether he’d like to go out with you.

Between these two approaches you are sure to strike gold!

Let me know how you make out! And, yes, you will be making out soon!

 

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