Apr 29, 2013
Fear of Intimacy
Dear Dr. Love,
I hope that you will take the time to read my story and provide me with feedback. I really don't know what to do. I am a 36 year old single mother. I have a loving relationship with Gary, the father of my 2 year old son, Justin. We have been intimately involved for four years. When I first initiated a relationship with Gary, I was living with a man named Mitchell and Gary was involved with a woman named Cheryl. It was understood that we were each already involved in serious...
Dec 11, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
Dear Dr Love
I am 50 yr old female dating a 53 yr old man for a little over a year. He was married for over 25 years and he and his wife divorced (he did not want the divorce). by his account, toward the end the relationship was volitale (he doesn't speak much about it-- but mostly blames himself) Anyhow, he's been divorced for approx. 6 yrs. He's dated several women and had at least one serious girlfriend in that time. He's a good man and does a lot to help...
Dec 11, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
I have been reading your advice column now for some time and I think you give excellent advice. Now I'm hoping you can help me out with a problem I am having now. It's kind of a strange one compared to other ones your readers ask you.
While most of them seek advice on how to restore relationships and their love life I am asking you on ways to avoid them. I am a 23 year old male who has had two girlfriends in in my past. My first relationship lasted 3years and ended...
Dec 11, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
I have been in a relationship with a man for the last 11 months everything has been real good and I mean real good. All of a sudden he tells me that we need to slow things down and not see each other as much.
My family and his spent the holidays and birthdays together. I think that he is scared of the closeness that we have now. He says that we need to be just friends. I don't know if I can just be friends with him because I'm in love with him and want to be with him as a couple not as his...
Dec 2, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
My girlfriend and I have been dating for three weeks now. We care for each other and are affectionate, but there is no passion . . . which is very strange since most of my relationships are very steamy (and short).
One reason I can suggest is that I really cannot have sex with a condom; the latex coating dulls my sensation to the extent that no matter what kind of condom or lubricant I apply, I just do not respond well in intercourse . . . I stay somewhat erect, but have very little...
Nov 27, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
Hi,
My issue is that I've never really had a normal sex life because of a deep seeded fear that I will not be able to obtain an erection. It's happened to me on more than one occasion with a new partner. I've read in another one of your advise columns that the hormones produced by fear are incompatable with those of sexual arousal. It makes perfect sense. Every time Im in a situation where sex would be initiated with someone Iam not 100% comfortable with I panic and try to avoid it at all...
Nov 27, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
Hello, I am an 18 year old male who is somewhat sexually active with my also 18 year old very beautiful female mate. I mean somewhat sexually active as we have felt each other 's body in all the places, have had oral sex, but not have actually had intercourse.
I face a sort of embarrasing problem. After a lot of foreplay and contact of our privates but while still dressed, the time comes that she attempts to give me a blow job. I am not capable of getting an erection while she does this...
Nov 20, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
Hello , I am 24 years old Female . I have one problem . It takes a long time for me to get excited & by the time I get excited my husband has fallen off. Is there any medicine or some method by which I can get excited in a short time of say 10 minutes ... Help me please. This has lead to fight & lots of disturbances in my life.
Oct 24, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
Hey Dr. Love. I have been in a wonderful relationship for about 2 months with a young lady that I find attractive, smart, and funny--all the qualities a man could want. We have done everything a male and female could do with the exception of. . . penis to vagina sex.
The problem is everytime my we start to begin the process, I lose my erection. I really like this girl, I'm tempted to say that I love her, but I know that she is just as frustrated as I am about my lack of an erection when it is...
Oct 1, 2012
Fear of Intimacy
my boyfriend and I are both 60 yrs old ( he, never married and me, divorced
for 24 years), healthy, youngish, and have a great sexual and intellectual
chemistry. I was celibate for 7 years before I met him, and this
relationship has made me feel like a 20 something in many ways...never
thought I'd find love again (him, too). He pursued me like gangbusters and
told me he loved me first (after about 2 months), and we see each other
about once a week (usually his place), sometimes two...
