Vaginal Pains when Trying to Have Sex

There are three things that could be causing her pain on penetration. The first is cystitis. If she has urinary frequency (meaning she has to pee often) and her urine burns upon voiding, she may have a bladder infection. Sometimes a woman can have cystitis, which can be caused by an irritation of the bladder rather than an infection. Some women experience irritation from acidic foods and alcohol.

The second thing that could be causing her pain is a vaginal infection. If she has a vaginal discharge that is foul smelling, then she most likely has a bacterial infection. If her discharge has a strong but not unpleasant odor, then she may have a yeast infection.  

If she sees her gynecologist, he/she can check her urine for infection and also examine her for a vaginal infection.

The last possibility is a condition called vaginisimus. This is an involuntary contraction of the lower third of the vagina, which causes pain on penetration. It’s not clear from your letter whether you couldn’t enter your finger/penis inside her because there’s an involuntary spasm. Or, is she clamping shut in response to bladder or vaginal pain and irritation. Vaginisimus is usually the result of sexual abuseSexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is the forcing of undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another. When that force is immediate, of short duration, or infrequent, it is called...(Click for full definition.). Psychotherapy is the treatment for this problem.

My best suggestion is that she make a visit to her gynecologist and get checked.  More information is what’s needed here.

Good luck. We will get to the bottom of it!