In Love with the Wrong Person

Oh what awful mess you’re in. If you go forward with this guy—presuming that he’s willing--you will destroy your friendship with your girlfriend. If you don’t go forward with him, you may break your heart. There is no easy answer here. Ultimately, the question is which relationship do you want to preserve. If you preserve your friendship with your girlfriend, that means giving him up and vice versa. Nobody can make the choice for you. There is a third option that I can think of.  That is the option of being completely honest with your girlfriend and telling her that you find yourself so drawn to her boyfriend, including telling her how tormented you feel, how much you love her and want to be loyal to her and never talk to him again (if you mean this), while at the same time you want to listen to your heart. You might be surprised to find that your girlfriend doesn’t feel as drawn to him as you do.  She might actually throw you a curve ball and say that she wants you to be with himsince clearly your feelings are stronger than are hers. I have given you a few choices. I really want to hear what you decide to do and how it all plays out.