Afraid to Talk to Mom

May 26, 2003

Question

please help me. i am almost 16 and have been dating this really great guy and i want to know how to tell my parents that i am ready to have sex with him.

my mom always told me to come to her but i don't know how. i don't want her to get mad at me or him or hate him. please i need your help.


Answer

Tell your mom that you're in a conflict. You want to be open to her, but you are afraid that she'll be mad or hate your boyfriend. Ask her what she thinks you should do.

Getting the green light from her before you actually share your heart should make her more receptive. An extra measure of protection is for you to tell her ahead of time the kind of response that you want from her.

For example you might say that you need her to listen and understand, but not pass judgment if that statement accurately depicts your wish. If it doesn't then modify it to suit your need.

Let me know how you do.

- Doctor Love


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