Afraid to Break into Tears

You are such an incredibly brave person and I admire you completely. Your having the strength to declare your love to him shows me how much courage you possess; more courage than most people can ever dream of having. I think you are going to have to get used to the fact that most people, this guy included, aren't going to measure up to you in the guts department (and in many other areas as well, I suspect) If I had to guess about why he is avoiding you, I would say that he is too afraid to speak to you directly. He probably doesn't want a romantic attachment (if he did, you'd have found out by now); and he may feel odd about being friends with someone who he knows is in love with him. He doesn't have the nerve to face you and talk all this over, so he avoids the discomfort by avoiding you. Since you are the one with the guts, I think that your best bet is to just go up to him and break the ice. You could use a little humor; even make fun of yourself, if you are comfortable with this. You might say, "Listen, I'm in a wheelchair, so you can relax, I won't be chasing you too hard..." The bottom line is, he needs to know that you are cool with being friends. If he knows that you are aren't going to pull a fatal attraction number on him, he should feel all right about developing a friendship. Once he knows that you are fine with friendship, why wouldn't he want you in his life? You are fine person and anyone in his/her right mind would want to be your friend. The actual words you use to approach him must feel true to who you are. Find words to tell him what you told me: that even if he doesn't want a romantic attachment, you'd still like to be his friend. Tell him what you like about him. If you have the guts to speak on his behalf, saying what he's too afraid to say, then you should be able to break the ice and build a friendship. I understand that you are afraid to break into tears. The biggest reason for this is that you feel stuck in limbo, waiting for him to come to you. That leaves you feeling vulnerable, weak, and tearful. If you take charge of the situation and go to him, your feelings of powerlessness will lift and your tears won't be an issue. But, even if, God forbid, you do cry. So what? You are feelingful, which makes you an even more wonderful person. Please keep in touch and let me know what happens next.